2025年3月25日，廣西南寧一名19歲在校女大學生（化名「莉莉」）向警方報案，指控其男友（化名「牛牛」）在交往期間，多次以暴力、脅迫與精神控制手段，強迫其發生性行為並進行人格侮辱。警方立案後展開調查，牛牛隨後因涉嫌強姦罪及強制侮辱罪被移送起訴，案件於2026年1月正式移交法院審理，目前仍在司法程序中，尚未開庭。

兩人的關係可追溯至2024年8月。當時莉莉透過短影音平台結識就讀大三的牛牛，雙方在短時間內頻繁聊天，一週後即確立戀愛關係，並發生性行為。交往初期，兩人相處表面和諧，未出現明顯衝突。然而，這段關係在2025年3月出現劇烈轉折。3月16日，牛牛發現莉莉曾與其他男性進行網路聊天後情緒失控，對莉莉產生強烈猜忌與憤怒，並以所謂「懲罰」為名，對其施以嚴重的羞辱與肢體暴力行為。莉莉事後表示，當時因害怕失去這段感情，加上長期受到對方情緒壓迫與恐嚇，選擇違背自身意願而屈從。

此後，暴力行為不但未停止，反而逐步升級。從3月19日至25日期間，牛牛多次對莉莉施以身體傷害，包括以煙頭燙傷其手臂、背部、大腿內側與胸部，並在其手臂留下具有佔有與貶抑意味的紋身文字。檢方認為，這類行為已明顯超出一般情侶衝突範圍，帶有強烈的人格貶損與控制意味，構成對被害人尊嚴的嚴重侵害。

3月25日下午，兩人再次發生性關係後，莉莉在情感與心理上徹底崩潰，認定關係已無法挽回，最終選擇報警求助。偵訊過程中，牛牛辯稱雙方的行為屬於自願的「SM情趣互動」，否認存在強迫情形；但莉莉則明確表示，自3月16日之後，所有性行為均是在暴力、威脅與恐懼狀態下被迫發生，並非出於自願。

司法程序方面，牛牛於2025年4月遭到正式批捕。案件偵辦期間，南寧市西鄉塘區人民檢察院曾兩度將案件退回警方補充偵查，並在釐清證據後，追加強制侮辱罪指控。檢方認定，牛牛以暴力與胁迫手段，違背被害人意志與其發生性關係，且同時對被害人實施嚴重侮辱行為，已構成強姦罪與強制侮辱罪，依法應數罪併罰。儘管牛牛家屬在偵查期間支付莉莉人民幣7萬元作為賠償，並取得刑事諒解書，但檢方仍認為案件性質嚴重，具有明確公共法益侵害，不適用不起訴處理，因而持續追究刑事責任。

案件的主要爭議焦點集中在「是否屬自願行為」與「精神控制是否構成脅迫」兩大問題上。牛牛方面堅持雙方為情侶關係，所有互動皆屬自願，其母親亦曾以監控畫面中兩人曾有說笑互動為由，質疑強姦指控的成立性；但莉莉則指出，自己長期遭受對方言語貶抑、情緒操控與身體暴力，逐漸喪失反抗能力，最終是在得知牛牛另結新女友後，心理防線徹底崩潰，才鼓起勇氣報警。

司法機關在綜合醫療鑑定、傷勢照片、聊天紀錄、證人證言與行為脈絡後，認定證據鏈完整，足以證明牛牛的行為符合以暴力、脅迫方式侮辱婦女並違背其意志發生性關係的構成要件。本案不僅涉及個人刑責，也再次引發社會對親密關係暴力、性同意界線以及「以情感之名行控制之實」問題的高度關注。

On March 25, 2025, a 19-year-old female university student in Nanning, Guangxi (identified under the pseudonym “Lily”) reported to the police that her boyfriend (pseudonym “Niuniu”) had repeatedly forced her to engage in sexual acts and subjected her to severe humiliation during their relationship. Following an investigation, Niuniu was transferred for prosecution on suspicion of rape and forced insult. The case was formally handed over to the court for trial in January 2026 and has not yet gone to hearing.

The relationship between the two began in August 2024, when Lily met Niuniu, then a third-year university student, through a short-video platform. After frequent online conversations, they established a romantic relationship within a week and subsequently had sexual relations. According to Lily, the early stage of the relationship appeared harmonious, with no obvious conflicts.

The situation changed dramatically in March 2025. On March 16, Niuniu discovered that Lily had been chatting online with other male acquaintances. He reportedly became enraged and, under the pretext of “punishment,” subjected Lily to extreme humiliation and physical violence. Lily later stated that she complied out of fear, emotional dependence, and prolonged psychological pressure, believing that obedience was the only way to preserve the relationship.

From March 19 to March 25, the abuse escalated. Niuniu allegedly burned Lily’s arms, back, inner thighs, and chest with cigarette butts, and forcibly tattooed words on her arm symbolizing ownership and degradation. Prosecutors later concluded that these actions went far beyond ordinary relationship disputes and constituted serious violations of personal dignity and bodily integrity.

On the afternoon of March 25, after another sexual encounter, Lily experienced a complete emotional breakdown and decided to report the matter to the police, stating that the relationship had irreparably collapsed. During questioning, Niuniu claimed that all acts were consensual and part of a mutually agreed “SM relationship.” Lily, however, maintained that all sexual activity after March 16 occurred under violence, coercion, and fear, and was entirely against her will.

In terms of legal proceedings, Niuniu was formally arrested in April 2025. During the investigation, the Xixiangtang District People’s Procuratorate of Nanning twice returned the case to police for supplementary investigation. After reviewing the evidence, prosecutors added the charge of forced insult, determining that Niuniu had used violence and coercion to engage in sexual acts against the victim’s will while simultaneously subjecting her to serious humiliation. The prosecution held that the conduct constituted both rape and forced insult, warranting combined punishment.

Although Niuniu’s family paid Lily RMB 70,000 in compensation and obtained a criminal settlement letter, prosecutors concluded that the nature of the case was severe and involved significant harm to public legal interests. As a result, criminal responsibility continued to be pursued, and the case was transferred to the court for trial.

The central controversy in the case revolves around whether the acts were consensual and whether long-term psychological control and violence constituted coercion. Niuniu has consistently claimed that all behavior was voluntary within a romantic relationship, and his mother cited surveillance footage showing the couple interacting normally to challenge the rape allegations. Lily, on the other hand, stated that she had endured prolonged emotional manipulation, verbal degradation, and physical abuse, gradually losing the ability to resist. She reported the crimes only after learning that Niuniu had begun seeing another woman, which caused her emotional collapse and prompted her to seek help.

After reviewing medical reports, injury photographs, communication records, witness testimony, and the overall behavioral pattern, judicial authorities concluded that the evidence chain was complete. They determined that Niuniu’s actions met the legal criteria for using violence and coercion to insult a woman and engage in sexual activity against her will.

Beyond individual criminal liability, the case has sparked widespread public discussion about intimate partner violence, the boundaries of sexual consent, and the dangers of disguising coercion and control as “emotional relationships.”