上海女人碰不得. 除非你是上海男人 小吳的真實慘痛經驗

要追求上海女人，有一些需要瞭解的問題。上海是一個母系社會，這意味著在家庭中女性通常具有更多的決策權和控制權。在這種文化中，男人通常需要分擔煮飯和家務的責任。此外，傳統上，男人會把所有的收入都交給太太，然後需要經太太同意才能花錢或提款。這些特點對於追求上海女人的男人來說可能是需要考慮的因素。

有一個例子，小吳曾經追求一位上過大陸非誠勿擾的女生，她住在上海。他不惜花費大量的金錢和時間，每月飛到上海與她約會，每次吃一頓飯都要花費至少6000台幣以上。這位女生特別喜歡吃大閘蟹跟高檔餐廳，之前為上節目還曾進行過波尿酸注射，讓臉看起來更緊繃。她後來還專程來臺灣找小吳玩，而所有費用都由他支付。

這位女生的性格非常任性，對訂的房間不滿意就要求退房重訂，還要求每人單獨住一間房。最後一個晚上，他們去士林夜市逛街，一晚上花費超過8000台幣購物。儘管如此，小吳還是決定追求這位女生，之後飛到上海，帶上她喜歡的士林夜市衣服。

抵達上海後，小吳與女生的父母一起吃飯。女生的爸爸一直提到她之前的男友是上海人，但愛吹牛，用欺詐手段追求女生，聲稱自己家裡非常富有，擁有兩套房子和一座別墅。然而，當詢問房子跟別墅的位址時，他卻答不出來，甚至編造一個錯誤的位址。

女生的媽媽則表示，只要小吳願意在上海與女兒生活，不買房也沒有問題。但表示女兒年紀大又挑剔，他們很著急，認為臺灣男人素質很好，有禮貌，希望女兒可以跟小吳結婚。

儘管小吳認為他已經得到女生父母的認可，但女生卻提出了條件，要求他買位於徐匯區當時市價三千多萬台幣的房子，因為那裡的學區好。小吳考慮自己的財務狀況後決定放棄這段關係，因為上海的物價實在太高，房子又要在婚前先買在女方名下實在沒有保障。

多年後，小吳在微信上再看到這位上海女生的照片發現她已經結婚生子，但面容已經進行許多整形，變得非常不自然的蛇精臉。他慶幸當年自己沒有將所有的錢都投入這段感情，否則即使勉強結婚，也很可能很快離婚。

他認為上海女人非常尊貴，他實在養不起。在2006年開始北上廣的房地產大漲，造就許多土豪並對喜歡的女人大撒幣，女人標準變的非常高，只鎖定北上廣有房車的男人，所以外地過去的如果沒有房子就很難追的到女生。小吳的故事反映上海社會的一些文化和價值觀，以及追求上海女人可能面臨的挑戰。

Shanghai women are untouchable, unless you are a Shanghai man, as per the unfortunate and painful experience of Xiao Wu.

To pursue Shanghai women, there are certain aspects to understand. Shanghai is a matrilineal society, meaning that women typically have more decision-making and control within the family. In this culture, men often need to share responsibilities such as cooking and household chores. Traditionally, men would hand over all income to their wives, needing approval to spend money or make withdrawals. These aspects might be considerations for men pursuing Shanghai women.

For example, Xiao Wu once pursued a mainland Chinese girl who appeared on the dating show "If You Are the One." She lived in Shanghai, and he spared no expense, flying to Shanghai every month for dates. Each meal cost at least 6,000 TWD. The girl had a particular liking for hairy crabs and upscale restaurants. She had previously undergone hyaluronic acid injections for a tighter facial appearance. She even visited Taiwan specifically to spend time with Xiao Wu, and he covered all expenses.

Her personality was capricious, demanding room changes if dissatisfied and insisting on separate rooms. On their last night, they went to the Shilin Night Market for shopping, spending over 8,000 TWD. Despite this, Xiao Wu decided to continue pursuing her. He flew to Shanghai, bringing clothes she liked from the Shilin Night Market.

Upon arriving in Shanghai, Xiao Wu had dinner with the girl's parents. The girl's father consistently mentioned her previous boyfriend, a Shanghai native, who exaggerated and used deceptive methods to pursue her. He claimed to be very wealthy, owning two houses and a villa. However, when asked for the addresses of the houses and villa, he couldn't provide them and even fabricated a wrong address.

The girl's mother expressed that as long as Xiao Wu was willing to live with her daughter in Shanghai, not buying a house was not an issue. She mentioned that her daughter, being older and picky, caused them to worry. They believed Taiwanese men had good qualities, were polite, and hoped their daughter could marry Xiao Wu.

Although Xiao Wu felt he had gained the approval of the girl's parents, she laid out a condition. She asked him to buy a house in the Xuhui District, then valued at over 30 million TWD, because of the good school district. After considering his financial situation, Xiao Wu decided to end the relationship. The cost of living in Shanghai was too high, and having to buy a house in the woman's name before marriage offered no security.

Years later, Xiao Wu saw pictures of the Shanghai girl on WeChat, realizing she had married and had a child. However, her facial features had undergone significant plastic surgery, appearing unnaturally altered. He was relieved that he hadn't invested all his money in that relationship, as even if they had married, it likely would have ended in divorce.

He believed Shanghai women were highly esteemed and that he couldn't afford to support them. Starting in 2006, the surge in real estate prices in Beijing, Shanghai, and Guangzhou created many wealthy individuals who lavishly spent on their preferred women. The standards for women became very high, targeting men with houses and cars in the northern cities. Therefore, individuals from other areas without property found it challenging to pursue local women. Xiao Wu's story reflects some cultural and value aspects of Shanghai society and the challenges one may face in pursuing Shanghai women.