老賴從小在美國長大，說著一口流利的英文，擁有美國國籍。他看到許多中國博主在烏克蘭找到女朋友或是有很多異性緣，身高183公分的他瞬間信心爆棚，準備學一點俄文後就飛過去。然而，沒想到卻經歷Covid-19疫情。當疫情開始減緩的時候，卻又爆發戰爭。

直到戰後一年半，局勢開始慢慢穩定，老賴終於來到心中嚮往的烏克蘭。然而，發現人口減少很多，女生也並沒有他想像中的那麼熱情。很多人似乎患有創傷後壓力症候群（PTSD），看到外國人尤其是亞洲人時非常害怕，認為中國與俄羅斯勾結入侵她們的國家，然後都特別狡猾。

老賴根據過去看的視頻內容，以為烏克蘭女人不愛錢。但在烏克蘭住將近兩年後，他完全不認同這種說法。發現周圍那些與當地人交往的中國人都是花錢請女人吃喝玩樂。烏克蘭人的生活方式有點像游牧民族，過一天算一天，對未來沒有規劃，也不太努力工作或學習，抗壓性很差。

烏克蘭的女生不會要求有房子和彩禮，但長期供應她們抽水煙和到處玩樂的費用也不低。她們約會時不會主動付錢，如果交往或結婚，通常還需要照顧她們的家人，包括看病或借錢，那些錢花下去不用期待能回收。如果男人不願意幫忙，關係就會惡化。因此，沒有錢的男人不要幻想與俄羅斯或烏克蘭女人交往。看看那些結婚的博主，帶女朋友或妻子到處旅遊，有時還要陪她們回家探親，這些長期累積下來都是高額的費用。

如果想要與斯拉夫女人約會，需要注意門面。指甲要剪乾淨，最好戴上手錶，穿上好的衣服，否則她們連看都不看你一眼。老賴最近去當義工，花兩個多小時煮飯。他的朋友戴著假名錶，穿著名牌襯衫，去孤兒院時，很多15歲的小女生主動跟他要IG，完全忽視老賴的存在，連一句話都懶得搭理。連這些沒有爸媽的小女生都這麼現實，知道要找靠山，其他能自食其力的女人要求又會如何呢？

烏克蘭人都玩IG，所以還需要把IG照片弄得漂漂亮亮。最好在當地買台車，可以隨時接送女生，出手要大方，否則是追不到女生的。她們與烏克蘭男人約會只要喝咖啡，但與外國人約會則通常要求請吃大餐或水煙。每次出去不花1500UAH以上，下次她們就不會再出來。與外國人約會就是要過上好日子。如果想找不太物質的女生，可以鎖定單親媽媽或是村姑，她們的心態比較正常。

Dating Ukrainian Women Is Not as Simple as You Think!

Lao Lai grew up in the United States, speaking fluent English and holding American citizenship. He saw many Chinese bloggers finding girlfriends in Ukraine or having a lot of female admirers, and at 183 cm tall, he felt confident and decided to learn some Russian before flying there. However, he was met with the Covid-19 pandemic. Just as the pandemic began to ease, the war broke out.

A year and a half after the war, when the situation started to stabilize, Lao Lai finally arrived in the Ukraine he had longed for. However, he discovered that the population had decreased significantly, and the women were not as enthusiastic as he had imagined. Many seemed to suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and were very afraid of foreigners, especially Asians. They believed that China had colluded with Russia to invade their country, which made them particularly wary.

Lao Lai had thought, based on videos he had watched, that Ukrainian women were not interested in money. But after living in Ukraine for nearly two years, he completely disagreed with this idea. He noticed that Chinese men dating local women spent a lot of money on dining and entertainment. Ukrainians live somewhat like nomads, living day to day with no plans for the future and not working or studying hard, with poor stress tolerance.

Ukrainian women may not require a house or dowry, but the long-term costs of supplying their hookah and entertainment are not low. They don’t usually pay on dates, and if in a relationship or marriage, you will likely have to take care of their family, including medical expenses or loans, without expecting any repayment. If the man is unwilling to help, the relationship deteriorates. Therefore, men without money should not fantasize about dating Russian or Ukrainian women. Look at the bloggers who have married; they travel extensively with their girlfriends or wives and often visit their families, which accumulates into significant expenses over time.

If you want to date Slavic women, you need to pay attention to your appearance. Keep your nails clean, wear a watch, and dress well, or they won't even look at you. Recently, Lao Lai volunteered, spending over two hours cooking. His friend, wearing a fake luxury watch and designer shirt, visited an orphanage, where many 15-year-old girls asked for his Instagram, completely ignoring Lao Lai and not bothering to talk to him. If even these parentless girls are so realistic and know to seek support, what about women who can support themselves?

Ukrainians are all on Instagram, so you need to make your Instagram photos look good. It's best to buy a car locally to conveniently pick up and drop off women. Be generous, or you won't attract women. They date Ukrainian men with just coffee, but with foreigners, they expect dinner and hookah. If you don't spend at least 1500 UAH each time you go out, they won't want to see you again. Dating foreigners is about living a good life. If you want to find less materialistic women, focus on single mothers or village girls, as they tend to have more normal attitudes.

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